Having Confidence in Your Identity

Who loves you the most in the entire world?

No, I am not looking for your answer to be Jesus. Which mortal being loves you more than any other? This may be your best friend, your spouse, your parent or child. Keep this person in mind.

Now imagine that a 3 am emergency has happened. You need to call someone, so you call that person.

Consider this question: Do you call that person because you love them or because they love you?

I promise, this is not a trick question!

You do not call them because you love them. You have the courage to pick up the phone because you firmly believe that they have a great love for you! You are comfortable with who you are to that person. You are confident in your title as wife, daughter, and/or best friend because you have confidence in their love for you.

For example, if you are no longer confident in your title as Best Friend, it is most likely because you have begun to doubt their love for you. If that is the case, you may no longer feel free to pick up the phone.

Did you catch how that works? If you find yourself doubting the title you have with that person, the reason is not that you lack confidence in the title – the reason is that you lack confidence in their love.

Lacking confidence in your title is a biproduct of lacking confidence in their love. The two are inseparable.

The same is true of our identity and relationship with God.

If we find ourselves doubting our identity as beloved daughters in Christ, we are actually doubting His love for us. If we doubt our identity, we are actually doubting God himself!

We are not called to doubt. We are called to be confident.

Hebrews 4:16 (NIV)

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

Having confidence in our identity is not a sign of arrogance. Having confidence in our identity is a sign of having confidence in the Goodness of God!

Confidence in your identity as a beloved daughter brings with it a confidence to approach God as the Good Father that He is. In other words, having confidence in your identity is having confidence in His love for us.

Think of Peter for a moment.

When he lacked confidence in his identity, he went back to his boat.

He messed up, denied Jesus three times, and returned to what was comfortable for him: the boat. He had already seen Jesus return to life at this point, but still went back to the boat.

And when Jesus came after him, Jesus did not greet him as Peter. In John 21:16, Jesus addresses him as “Simon, Son of John,” which was Peter’s old name before Jesus renamed him (John 1:42).

Jesus is saying Peter is having an identity issue. Peter had taken his eyes off Jesus’ love for him, and he began to sink. Only Jesus’ love could bring him back.

Romans 2:4 (NIV)

“God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance”

In other words, when our love fails, it is his love that draws us back to Him. His love turns us around.

Our identity is not dependent upon what we do, but what He did.

If you are feeling distant from God, check your identity. If you lack confidence in your identity of being a beloved daughter, it is because your view of His love for you is too small.

Peter’s identity and relationship were restored by Jesus. Because of that, he was able to walk into everything he was created to do.

God offers the same for you.

Ask Him to reveal His love for you and watch Him restore your identity while launching you into your purpose.

1 John 3:1 (NIV)

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!”